tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post2501231035385974299..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: Final preparationsCristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-56259086697328228522018-05-19T22:23:46.424-07:002018-05-19T22:23:46.424-07:00I too am a people pleaser, having learned this as ...I too am a people pleaser, having learned this as a coping strategy as a young kid. It has its upsides for sure, but mainly for maintaining peace with other people... it’s emotionally taxing on me. I wonder where you’re at with this now... it’s something I remember here and there but this post helped remind me that it’s something that isn’t good for anyone. (My new baby is also a Capricorn!)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14896931627340645963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-41610729473503770532017-10-10T18:42:08.661-07:002017-10-10T18:42:08.661-07:00I'm a Capricorn too... no wonder so many of yo...I'm a Capricorn too... no wonder so many of your posts resonate! ;) People-pleasing & letting others walk all over me is a weakness of mine too. I've gotten a bit better at standing up for myself as I've aged, but it's still hard. Being aware is the first step to changing behaviour, though. Hang in there! loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-8888112932203956892017-10-10T13:09:45.800-07:002017-10-10T13:09:45.800-07:00Ahhh...you're dealing with so much on so many ...Ahhh...you're dealing with so much on so many fronts.<br /><br />You know, blogging is something that really helped me to know when I should stand my ground, and that I CAN stand my ground. The experience of being publicly ridiculed by people who didn't know squat about my topic, and me standing firm and tall during it, well that has helped me also in my non-writing expression.<br /><br />Still, I struggle there, though. FWIW, I see you as someone who is SO intelligent, wise, confident, and should be listened to. I feel that not to heed any advice you give me would be at my own peril.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-9095555473660385352017-10-09T18:58:03.508-07:002017-10-09T18:58:03.508-07:00Unfuckwithable-(adj.) when you’re truly at peace a...Unfuckwithable-(adj.) when you’re truly at peace and in touch with yourself, and nothing anyone says or does bothers you, and no negativity or drama can touch you.<br /><br />Above is what I strive for every day. Usually I fall short, but I do try. <br /><br />Be true to yourself. Always. You are enough.BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-29589636045391684092017-10-07T09:21:26.840-07:002017-10-07T09:21:26.840-07:00Yes, this: "But what I can and should do is b...Yes, this: "But what I can and should do is be true to myself. That's all that really matters in the end." I get the people pleasing thing. And I am so sorry that people are dropping everything on you and it feels like they're just pissed you exist. That beyond sucks. Have you been watching Justine's youtube series on boundaries and people pleasing, and going to empty wells (my top personal failing)? I thought of that IMMEDIATELY when reading your post. I hope it gets better. I hope you can keep being true to yourself, for you are strong, and amazing, and resilient. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.com