tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post3138532491152501419..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: Rules of Engagment?Cristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-45632122810446214702012-03-31T12:10:03.198-07:002012-03-31T12:10:03.198-07:00Hi Cristy! I've been sitting here catching up ...Hi Cristy! I've been sitting here catching up on all your posts I've missed over the last few weeks. I am SOOOOO happy for you guys!! I know you're still in a place with the recent events that your scared and nervous to get your hopes up too much. But know that those of us following your story will be your cheerleaders and are pulling for you all the way.<br /><br />As for how you continue to blog after a BFP, I agree with these ladies. We all blog primarily as an outlet for ourselves - to process our thoughts and emotions. The friends we've gained along the way are an added bonus and the truth is, we're all striving for the same goal. <br /><br />Through the support group we joined last year after our miscarriage, we've made several close friends. Out of us 4 couples, the other three couples are now pregnant again. Everyone but us. There is a little part of me that is hurt in this (as I would like to be right there with them), but the other part of me wants to be their biggest fan through all of this as there's no one else I could be happier for. They've all had losses at even later stages than us and I know what they have endured. <br /><br />When we are all pursuing a common goal and have shared our heartaches and our losses, it doesn't hurt like someone outside of this community. You've been where we are and you understand. It may sound crazy but that's how it's different for me. <br /><br />Much love and I cheering for you!Lorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03333972592403553177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-38354704740003399182012-03-28T15:08:43.280-07:002012-03-28T15:08:43.280-07:00For me personally, I feel that this is your space....For me personally, I feel that this is your space. If people feel hurt, triggered or anything else by what you say they can step away and come back when they are ready. I would not want you to lose your space to be you. God knows there are so few places for us IFers/loss survivors to just be us. You have my unconditional support no matter what you write or how you feel.@EndoJourneyhttp://www.journeywithendometriosis.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-79439483602302955322012-03-27T23:15:13.479-07:002012-03-27T23:15:13.479-07:00Will be here every step of the way with you... I l...Will be here every step of the way with you... I love your writing and I find blogs about IFers that are now pregnant to be inspirational and keep up my hope that maybe there's light at the end of the tunnel. Don't apologise or feel guilty for anything you write... you write in such a beautifully sensitive way that I'm sure no-one would take offence and you can be our light outside the trenches :)) Plus, like many have said, this is your blog and pregnancy after IF has it's own set of anxieties, so you have every right to express concerns and happiness along the way... and we'll be right along side you xoxoDandelionBreezehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06988561541523178095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-29182659984538638922012-03-27T22:37:04.190-07:002012-03-27T22:37:04.190-07:00Keep blogging however you want. talk about whateve...Keep blogging however you want. talk about whatever you want. We know you have been through the same stuff we have so we know you understand and don't want to upset. But this is your space and you should be able to say whatever you want. I am still in the trenches and I will keep reading no matter what.Emily @ablanket2keephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10398858102692984237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-51423797714031814512012-03-27T21:04:45.717-07:002012-03-27T21:04:45.717-07:00I want to see and hear what's really happening...I want to see and hear what's really happening with you no matter where you are in your process!<br /><br />I haven't really thought of my blog changing if I ever get a BFP because all along it's been about my experience wherever I am. The one thing that I do want to do if I get there, to be sensitive to others, is to NOT post belly or baby pics on Facebook. I'll set up a flickr account or something like that and post the link (without a thumbnail) so people know where they can go if they *want* to see pics, but I'm not going to make people choose between hiding my feed and scrolling quickly past pics in their news feed!Kecharahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05711100496195654068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-39499600974894109522012-03-27T16:24:32.622-07:002012-03-27T16:24:32.622-07:00I'm pretty sure that when you started this blo...I'm pretty sure that when you started this blog, you did it for you. Because you needed an outlet. And I'm pretty sure you continued to write new posts week after week, not for those of us that were following- but for you. I would recommend that you continue that. We are here as supporters that have chosen to follow along for any number of reasons. But this story, your story, is for you. Embrace it.Tuttihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05892495385717172227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-91317515875021307002012-03-27T12:36:57.860-07:002012-03-27T12:36:57.860-07:00I can only speak for myself, but I continue to rea...I can only speak for myself, but I continue to read blogs for lots of reasons, but the biggest is that something in the voice of the author touches me.<br /><br />I want to know how things are going for you, regardless of my lack of luck so far. I also hope that you can continue to write with the same honesty and insight that you have so far. So yes, sensitivity is important, but so is telling your true story.<br /><br />(I do tend to skip posts that answer the same list of questions every week. (Yes, I know you're still wearing maternity clothes/having a girl/etc.) I'd much rather hear their story. But that's just me, I'm not offended by it or anything.)sass @ (In)fertility Unexplainedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06322070279032931788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-43196686574667309972012-03-27T12:24:24.954-07:002012-03-27T12:24:24.954-07:00I agree with what everyone has said: You're aw...I agree with what everyone has said: You're aware of the sensitivity of IF and finally getting a BFP. That means a lot. Plus, many readers (myself included) follow someone because of how they write, not just what they write. I remember being in this exact same position and it's a tricky one to figure out how you want to proceed, but I'm sure you'll figure it out. :)<br /><br />psst, what is the "T" word?JustHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05373768249873098150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-61559572590698254142012-03-27T12:10:21.509-07:002012-03-27T12:10:21.509-07:00My opinion is that we are all made of strong enoug...My opinion is that we are all made of strong enough stuff to handle posts of pregnant and parenting IF bloggers. If we can handle the pain of infertility, we should be able to stomach someone else's happiness. :)Chickenpighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09442755180328605920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-34792542208807503632012-03-27T11:19:20.753-07:002012-03-27T11:19:20.753-07:00Good Luck. I hope the ultrasound goes well.Good Luck. I hope the ultrasound goes well.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-69645336273264625532012-03-27T09:24:39.286-07:002012-03-27T09:24:39.286-07:00I think you have enough sensativity and care in yo...I think you have enough sensativity and care in your writing that I am not worried about how I will feel. I am happy for you and am so sincerely glad that you have another chance. <br />As much as the negative parts of this journey and community can bring you down, it can also be uplifting and comforting. You are still an infertile and are still at the beginnings of your new path. Stay for as long as you want. This place, your blog, can also be about success and happiness. <br />I wish you luck at your ultrasound and am excited to hear the results.ADSchillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13972164121690415796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-51751313876884319902012-03-27T07:52:09.427-07:002012-03-27T07:52:09.427-07:00Ditto what everyone else said. I love reading you...Ditto what everyone else said. I love reading your blog no matter what you're currently going through. <br /><br />I admit that I feel a little awkward sometimes commenting on blogs of pregnant women. I absolutely want to be supportive, but worry that my bad experiences with pregnancy (ie, miscarriages) will contribute to preggo's anxiety levels. Like, when people are asking for help with nausea, I feel very weird offering suggestions when my nausea didn't mean I was safe, pregnancies didn't end well, etc. Don't know how to separate my bad experiences from my comments unless my comments are completely vague ("sounds normal! good luck!"). So, while I may comment less, I'm still following you and here for you.<br /><br />Ok, rambling. Please blog about whatever you're going through! I'm not going anywhere!Fieryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06477507213781894921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-2105724753526623482012-03-27T06:52:56.906-07:002012-03-27T06:52:56.906-07:00I just want you to know that I will follow your bl...I just want you to know that I will follow your blog regardless what direction it goes in. Yes my ivf failed and I am learning to deal with the disappointment but you know what? You went through the exact same pain as all of us and worked so hard and cried so many tears and now you are blessed. You deserve every single second of this. I do understand not wanting to offend or hurt people but you also have to move forward and be proud and enjoy your pregnancy. I will be a huge supporter and looking forward to ultrasounds and belly pics.Just Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06315564549299993908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-19319081085432404792012-03-27T06:01:11.877-07:002012-03-27T06:01:11.877-07:00Please keep blogging, Cristy! I know you and I kno...Please keep blogging, Cristy! I know you and I know you won't be insensitive toward us infertiles in describing your journey. I for one will always care and will keep reading. :)<br /><br />In other news, I myself thought about the T word too! Such high beautiful numbers, it's entirely possible... or not. Could just be one extra strong little bean in there. Eeee now can't wait to hear what happens on the 5th!Shelley Senaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02653562037507133977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-83358625870595360362012-03-27T05:03:26.048-07:002012-03-27T05:03:26.048-07:00I think the fact that you're cognizant of it i...I think the fact that you're cognizant of it is the biggest thing -- and the fact that you can mentally put yourself in many readers' shoes. And then you write the way you would have wanted someone else to write for you when you were in that position. <br /><br />All the while talking about what you need to talk about -- this is YOUR space and you need to use it as you need to use it. <br /><br />And I, for one, will be here because I started reading you because you're YOU, not because of your situation. And your writing style will still be your writing style even after the subject matter changes.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-30856994564786452572012-03-26T23:42:32.544-07:002012-03-26T23:42:32.544-07:00I'm still gonna be here no matter what you do....I'm still gonna be here no matter what you do. I can't wait to see how your ultrasound goes!Trishahttp://theelusivesecondline.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-37827871158624899722012-03-26T22:44:27.035-07:002012-03-26T22:44:27.035-07:00I say keep blogging with sensitivity about your jo...I say keep blogging with sensitivity about your journey. I personally have stopped reading blogs once they get their BFP, unless their writing is good enough that I want to keep reading their stories. Your readers that enjoy your style and story will keep reading and the ones who can't handle the BFP (no judgement), will find other blogs.Still Sinkinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07431984732325354306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-67032614431694830112012-03-26T22:32:13.699-07:002012-03-26T22:32:13.699-07:00Our first ultrasound is on Wednesday! I'll be...Our first ultrasound is on Wednesday! I'll be checking up on you. I know just how you feel about entering the other realm... I drafted a post today but will post it tomorrow once I have worked a bit more on it. Hope you can enjoy this pregnancy without the worries of "what if."Sara-Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02106264089310972938noreply@blogger.com