tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post4366522298090863199..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: 24 weeks: viability, confronting fear and healingCristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-28794898022147935302013-06-10T15:55:11.375-07:002013-06-10T15:55:11.375-07:00Finally catching up on reading blogs! Congrats Cri...Finally catching up on reading blogs! Congrats Cristy to you and Grey on 24 weeks! What an exciting milestone. Family is so difficult. I wish I had somme words of wisdom on that subject. Will continue hoping that you heal and your fears subside. Hugs!Jessah @ Dreaming of Dimpleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02945119397487785737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-2090129445854038742013-06-07T07:51:37.653-07:002013-06-07T07:51:37.653-07:00It sounds like you have a whole lot of insight int...It sounds like you have a whole lot of insight into your situation, and I think that the way you are handling the situation with Lucas is really wise. Relational healing can be painstaking and requires so much vulnerability. Good for you for writing that letter. I hope that the end results of all of this work are better than you could have imagined.<br /><br />And also, your fears are real and warranted. It is terrifying to love something(s) that are so fragile so much. I hope and pray that these weeks go by quickly and uneventfully.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15069220262683215373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-56646016607123545092013-06-03T20:03:23.517-07:002013-06-03T20:03:23.517-07:00Hey! Congrats and hip hip hooray for 24 weeks! H...Hey! Congrats and hip hip hooray for 24 weeks! Holy smokes is time ever passing quickly! <br /><br />I'm glad that you have an outlet for scary thoughts and feelings related to the pregnancy - our blog spaces are wonderful outlets for certain aspects of our journey, aren't they? But yet other parts need to remain private until / if we wish to publicly document those tricky times. <br /><br />You and Grey continue to be in my thoughts! Thanks for the update! :)Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032718306225742021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-33595659389350851802013-06-03T13:37:25.849-07:002013-06-03T13:37:25.849-07:00So glad that your pregnancy is doing well.So glad that your pregnancy is doing well.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-29215715231365047842013-06-03T08:17:12.312-07:002013-06-03T08:17:12.312-07:00Just catching up on all my favorite blogs and I so...Just catching up on all my favorite blogs and I so look forward to seeing yours. First of all, congrats on viability. I know that is such a HUGE milestone that words can't even begin to explain. Every time I ready one of your updates and see that you and the babies are doing so wonderful, it truly makes my heart smile.<br /><br />I am also so pleased to see how you are taking the steps to really deal with the difficult family issues. I know how much pain that has caused in your life.<br /><br />As always, wishing you and your family the absolute best!Just Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06315564549299993908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-56638012061289203032013-06-02T16:18:52.565-07:002013-06-02T16:18:52.565-07:00Your relationship with your BIL reminds me a lot o...Your relationship with your BIL reminds me a lot of my relationship with my father-in-law. Things became extremely tense right before I married my husband Dan and it ended with a lecture from FIL that I could "have" Dan for the rest of my life, but that he wasn't "mine" until we were married. Meaning, essentially, that my disapproval that FIL drove Dan home one night around the holidays while drunk was unwarranted and disrespectful.<br /><br />Anyway, my point is that I understand. When Dan called to tell his dad that he was rushing to the hospital for my emergency surgery to remove my ectopic, his dad ended the conversation by scolding him for not calling his sister more often because she had been having some "health issues" which Dan had no idea about. Following the surgery, he did not call to make sure Dan and I were doing okay until I told his wife that Dan really needed to talk to him.<br /><br />I apologize for the rambling, I should probably make a blog post about it. Forgiving hateful in-laws is extremely difficult to do. I still haven't forgiven mine and it has been five years.<br /><br />I also want to say congrats on the 24-week mark. Hang in there. I know if I ever get pregnant again it will be so difficult to "just enjoy" my pregnancy. It's nearly impossible when you know what we know.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-85516965697955008372013-06-01T19:07:03.540-07:002013-06-01T19:07:03.540-07:00First of all, cheers to 24 weeks! I've had my...First of all, cheers to 24 weeks! I've had my share of family issues, mainly with my in-laws, and let me tell you, I applaud your initiative in writing a letter to Lucas. I hope you find some healing in all this. Know that you are an amazing person that can survive whatever comes of it. Hoping for all the best for you. Your comments on my blog have been so helpful, you have a wonderful presence in this community. Risahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01134469272401945848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-18103493822816825942013-06-01T05:12:18.349-07:002013-06-01T05:12:18.349-07:00Congratulations on reaching viability and on being...Congratulations on reaching viability and on being a could-be "cervix model" (?!?). It's hard to learn to embrace something that you fear so much could be taken away from you, though. I understand and I'm sorry your attempts to express that have led to responses that felt minimizing, but I'm glad your finding other ways to manage your anxiety. Elizabeth :: Bébé Suissehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12611974492044450702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-55551893112171525072013-05-31T18:06:30.268-07:002013-05-31T18:06:30.268-07:00Isn't it interesting/sad to realize that the w...Isn't it interesting/sad to realize that the way your family handled issues when you were a child all those years ago has directly translated into how you handle things as an adult? Even your blog -- you react in the way you were trained to as a child. :( I so wish you didn't feel that you needed to be silent when going through troubles. We are here to help! Maybe make small efforts every day/week/month/whatever to continue to work on opening up honest discussions - be it with your BIL, your blog, your coworkers, whatever. Learn from your own childhood how you don't want the beats to react to stress, concerns, and hurts in life! <br /><br />So thankful you have reached viability week - I hope you can start to feel better every week about this pregnancy and about the support system surrounding you. ((HUGS))Joshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13423295019681051881noreply@blogger.com