tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post6156979233227518385..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: ProcessingCristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-73402644136321644032012-08-23T03:01:36.213-07:002012-08-23T03:01:36.213-07:00I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. Y...I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. You are brave to tackle it now, to talk about it and processing it with the help you get. Many hugs your way as you keep navigating this difficult road, figuring all out.marwilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14490542805154143307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-33035846459132009982012-08-22T21:16:02.194-07:002012-08-22T21:16:02.194-07:00I'm so sorry for all you've been through a...I'm so sorry for all you've been through and the feelings that trauma still trigger for you. Keep processing. Keep moving forward. You will be an amazing mother, and I hope one day soon, you'll be able to see that, too. Sending you hugs.Darylhttp://soonafamily.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-86109293760605437452012-08-22T13:21:03.347-07:002012-08-22T13:21:03.347-07:00I'm sorry you had to go through all that pain....I'm sorry you had to go through all that pain. It sounds like Dee can help you begin to love yourself. You are worth it. Miss Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10205190242783133625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-43695540720677137412012-08-22T09:00:41.265-07:002012-08-22T09:00:41.265-07:00I am so sorry hon. You do deserve to be a mother a...I am so sorry hon. You do deserve to be a mother and never forget that. I didn't deal with as much as you, but I lost my childhood by having to grow up and a lot of verbal abuse from my mother. I had a similar experience with my first tattoo, but I still have it. I continually get the verbal abuse and there are long periods of time when she refuses to talk to me. I used to do the same thing. She would make me feel guilty and I would beg and plead and apologize. I have been really working on it for 4 years now and I am doing great. There are times the verbal abuse starts and I don't take it. If she isn't going to talk to me nicely then I tell her I am hanging up and I do. There have been times over the past few months where she ignores me for weeks and I don't feel guilty about it anymore. It's her problem not yours or mine. And sometimes you have to just completely separate yourself from the problem. Huge Hugz to you hon.Emily @ablanket2keephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10398858102692984237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-38633185770611989832012-08-22T04:14:37.419-07:002012-08-22T04:14:37.419-07:00I am so very sorry...I know first hand how damagin...I am so very sorry...I know first hand how damaging a mother can be and its effects on your forever...its abuse 100% and you never get over the person who was supposed to love and protect you would be hurting you...its a pain that I feel I you can never get over and as I think about it now I have tears in my eyes...it cuts you so deeply that I have yet found a way to completely heal the wounds...I have moved on but I will never forget it...I really hope that the EMDR is helping you (((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) know that you are not alone!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-28005199287614008872012-08-21T11:24:16.281-07:002012-08-21T11:24:16.281-07:00This process you are going through, grappling with...This process you are going through, grappling with what happened to you as a child and as an adult, is not unlike infertility itself. It's painful, fear inducing, and there are no clear cut answers- or knowledge that all will work out in the long run. I'm sorry that you have to know this pain all over again. However, I am confident that you will be an amazing mom. And I don't say that just because it sounds good, or that it is an easy thing to say; I say it because in all this time I've been reading your blog, post after post after post, I feel like I'm able to say that the Cristy I've come to know is an introspective, compassionate, and loving woman. You are not your mother. You will not make her mistakes, and... your child will flourish because of you. Tamihttp://submerged.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-57239124351023711042012-08-21T06:21:05.913-07:002012-08-21T06:21:05.913-07:00I'm so glad you're starting to open up and...I'm so glad you're starting to open up and really dive deep. I'm so sorry for all your mother has put you through. That tattoo story is awful. As someone who's seriously pondered tattoo removal, I can't imagine what that would have been like at 18, with my mother against me, holding my future over my head... just terrible. I hope this tough work with Dee will put you on the fast track toward healing my dear. This stuff is so hard, true work, as exhausting as any manual labor. But the end result is worth it.Shelleyhttp://fromthewaitingroom.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-6514172428093198582012-08-21T02:44:49.206-07:002012-08-21T02:44:49.206-07:00I'm so sorry, Christy. My mom had a hard child...I'm so sorry, Christy. My mom had a hard childhood and did her best to give us kids a much better one. I know at times she struggled to see me (and my siblings) having a better childhood than her, but I know from my mom that it is possible to change and break the cycle. You are definitely on your way to becoming a great mother!JustHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05373768249873098150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-60111607672640856642012-08-20T20:48:42.694-07:002012-08-20T20:48:42.694-07:00I am so very sorry for the trauma and abuse you su...I am so very sorry for the trauma and abuse you suffered at the hands of your mother. I know from firsthand experience that it's extremely difficult to feel self-worth as an adult when you grow up with an abusive parent. I'm glad that you're working through this with Dee and that you realize that the terrible things your mother said to you were lies. <br /><br />You are an amazing person and if anyone deserves the gift of motherhood, it's you. Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14101535107377688458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-82815291425745725532012-08-20T20:02:55.114-07:002012-08-20T20:02:55.114-07:00Very proud of you for confronting these dark and d...Very proud of you for confronting these dark and difficult emotions that you carry around with you still. This in itself makes you an amazing mother and makes you one of the most deserving people that I know for the family that you want. I'm so sorry you went through so much. I wish you much healing and a flood of love for yourself as you embark on this journey with Dee. Here for you the whole way. *hugs*EndoJourneyhttp://www.journeywithendometriosis.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-31620083272261316502012-08-20T16:56:44.739-07:002012-08-20T16:56:44.739-07:00Jesus Cristy. She said you deserved infertility?! ...Jesus Cristy. She said you deserved infertility?! This woman is beyond help. I am so glad you have Dee and Grey. You also have all of us. Parents really can damage a child beyond all belief. Too bad it is you who has to pay the price, instead of them. Sending you huge hugs.Her Royal Fabulousnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04008723588326617669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-76346404805672803482012-08-20T16:21:02.265-07:002012-08-20T16:21:02.265-07:00You do so deserve to be a mother, Cristy. You dese...You do so deserve to be a mother, Cristy. You deserve all of that and so much more. I really hope one day you can believe that, because you will be spectacular at it.<br />~Keisha~Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-40223058077457844392012-08-20T13:01:57.252-07:002012-08-20T13:01:57.252-07:00Hon, I am so sorry for what you had to go through ...Hon, I am so sorry for what you had to go through and the feelings you now have about no being worthy. <br /><br />I know you have to work this out for yourself, but I believe you are worthy of being a mother. You have a big heart and are not a thing like your own mother. <br /><br />If you need to talk, please call. ADSchillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13972164121690415796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-12457501607866081522012-08-20T12:22:44.687-07:002012-08-20T12:22:44.687-07:00Cristy I feel for you. I really do. I too am lik...Cristy I feel for you. I really do. I too am like you and Toni. There are days that my childhood, for lack of a better word, comes back to haunt my present. It can affect me during the worst and best of times. It seems like anything can trigger the memories.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-90128664153271155662012-08-20T12:10:35.768-07:002012-08-20T12:10:35.768-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.KayBeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08658373485056670950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-69417198976760906742012-08-20T08:53:46.412-07:002012-08-20T08:53:46.412-07:00I am so sorry that happened to you Cristy. My chil...I am so sorry that happened to you Cristy. My childhood was stolen from me also and that is something that cuts so deep. Even after the cut is healed there is a huge scar for the rest of your life. You will be a wonderful mother, a loving, caring, compassionate, understand mother. Whether it is through adoption or your frozen babies, you will be so loved and will have so much love to give.Just Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06315564549299993908noreply@blogger.com