tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post6787233460095333044..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: #Microblog Mondays: The difficult childCristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-75518048292137698242015-11-04T17:31:48.812-08:002015-11-04T17:31:48.812-08:00There was a time when I had to remove my 2 year ol...There was a time when I had to remove my 2 year old flailing and crying from about every place we went. He even cried when we left the dr office. This too shall pass and you are doing a great job with both of your children. It just must be extra hard to have 2 2 year olds at the same time.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08892553888930861596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-71971937754178139242015-11-03T13:39:11.396-08:002015-11-03T13:39:11.396-08:00Toddlers are so difficult- and my daughter is not ...Toddlers are so difficult- and my daughter is not even technically two yet! I would be nice to just skate by ignoring tantrums but instead we have to be "responsible" parents that actually educate their children in how to deal with their emotions. Ugh. (Just kidding)<br /><br />It would especially be hard with twins not to compare the kids and their behavior....but it sounds like you recognize the differences and are willing to work with He-Beat in teaching him the right way to show and communicate his emotions. It certainly isn't going to happen overnight but you can do it.Non Sequitur Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268138421234170972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-56498577146999960312015-11-03T12:04:59.700-08:002015-11-03T12:04:59.700-08:00You are in one of the hardest times, when they hav...You are in one of the hardest times, when they have such big feelings and can't talk about them. So it all comes out as tantrums. Or what we call tantrums and they would call communication, no different from crying as a baby because they were hungry or wet or tired. Maybe we need to change the way we talk about childhood behaviour. Instead of saying, "I saw a child having a tantrum at Target," we should say, "I saw a child behaving like a child at Target instead of behaving like an adult." Am I making any sense?Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-33039806208121983442015-11-03T07:13:55.950-08:002015-11-03T07:13:55.950-08:00I don't think children should be allowed to gr...I don't think children should be allowed to grow molars. They are the worst. Periods of molar teething have turned my sweet, typically mild mannered boy into a hopeful at a casting for the next Exorcist movie. <br />I am finding that - periods of teething aside - toddlerhood is the time where many negative behaviors come to light. These little, rapidly growing people don't have the resources to express their intense frustrations, physical and emotional pain, and certainly haven't developed reasoning skills - um, cause and effect anyone? Anyone? Bueller? I find it helps me to look at these sometimes very troubling behaviors in that way; it helps me cope and parent more effectively. And sometimes not which is when, with a little bit of shame, I turn on Sesame Street and think about having a drink. 2dognitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05247158356810025811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-3018837392829726792015-11-02T19:09:16.415-08:002015-11-02T19:09:16.415-08:00Abiding with you. As my kids are in middle school ...Abiding with you. As my kids are in middle school -- the same one I went to -- I relate to what you say about revisiting old emotional situations.<br /><br />You're a good mama. An aware mama.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-88028708422672685862015-11-02T18:33:52.576-08:002015-11-02T18:33:52.576-08:00I am so sorry that this is such a difficult time.....I am so sorry that this is such a difficult time... I don't know if this is helpful whatsoever, but as a special educator I try to think about difficult behavior as opposed to difficult children. It's easy for me to say as I don't take my students home with me and I don't feel personally responsible for them/they aren't dependent on me, but it can be so easy for a child to be labeled as "difficult" when it's the behavior that's difficult, not something inherent with the child. (I see teachers doing that, which I'm sure would be a fear as a parent, commenting on "THAT kid" or "good luck with THAT one," which makes me sad since it's our job to help kids with ALL kinds of behaviors to find ways to be successful and manage behavior more appropriately). I hope that you can find ways to help He-Beats through this rough period, that you have resources through school or community that are helpful and not judgy or label-y. Not at all that this is a services-type situation, but just help from other parents or teachers who have helped children work through their needs and expressing those needs in less challenging ways. Or maybe that just comes when he's 4 and out the other side of this toddler morass... It sounds so hard. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-57280546108324044242015-11-02T18:24:08.760-08:002015-11-02T18:24:08.760-08:00I wonder. Do you think that being a "difficul...I wonder. Do you think that being a "difficult child" is different for a boy than a girl? That a boy not be labelled as such, whereas a girl is supposed to be all sweetness and light, totally compliant? I suspect it might be. <br /><br />I was a compliant child, scared to do anything wrong. I have a niece who wasn't. Honestly, I wish I had been more like my headstrong, determined, niece. It is serving her well now. I imagine it is serving you well now too, though I'm sorry to hear of the scars the label left you.<br /><br />Sending hugs. Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.com