tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post888420803784510836..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: RewireCristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-86512682849980101962012-09-04T11:20:07.454-07:002012-09-04T11:20:07.454-07:00You are working so hard hon! Rewiring is really di...You are working so hard hon! Rewiring is really difficult! It took me 3 years to get to rewire changing the way I deal with my Mom to a place that is healthier and it is still a daily struggle. Now I have to start working in depth to make sure I don't repeat the things I hate about how she raised me. It is so hard, but it can be done! If anyone can do it you can!Emily @ablanket2keephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10398858102692984237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-28831863526993504922012-08-29T06:29:27.927-07:002012-08-29T06:29:27.927-07:00Cristy, I'm so sorry for how rough the past co...Cristy, I'm so sorry for how rough the past couple of weeks have been since you returned from Boston. I can't believe you're now having to deal with physical safety issues at home. It's awful. Adding family drama to the mix must feel so emotionally exhausting.<br /><br />I admire you for working so hard on yourself with Dee. I appreciate your honesty about your sessions with her. If anyone can break dysfunctional patterns, it's you. You are stronger than I think you realize.<br /><br />I just have to say again--you were so awesome on the podcast! Loved hearing your voice.Fieryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06477507213781894921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-73947738403401053862012-08-27T18:18:02.548-07:002012-08-27T18:18:02.548-07:00You are trying, and as far as I can tell, you'...You are trying, and as far as I can tell, you're making progress. No one can ask more of you than that. All relationships take work, and I admire the fact that you're putting in the hard work now, for your current relationship and for your future children.Darylhttp://soonafamily.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-17876711106011328022012-08-27T08:48:12.775-07:002012-08-27T08:48:12.775-07:00The amount of work and dedication you have done is...The amount of work and dedication you have done is amazing. And still, I feel like it is so much more. The easy road is to float: no therapy, no relationship work, no analyzing or trying to change- less pain all around. You did not decide to take the easy road Christy- and that alone is reason to keep your head held high. Tuttihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05892495385717172227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-47049529910632426082012-08-26T15:55:22.759-07:002012-08-26T15:55:22.759-07:00I don't think I could ever think of you as a d...I don't think I could ever think of you as a drama queen! You have been through hell and you are doing only what we all can do - your best. Try and be kind to yourself.Her Royal Fabulousnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04008723588326617669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-89409917400324333362012-08-26T12:42:34.164-07:002012-08-26T12:42:34.164-07:00EMDR works for some but not all. Two people close...EMDR works for some but not all. Two people close to me have tried it for several sessions and it didn't help them at all. Really talk therapy itself is probably better.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-32028401466571024682012-08-26T10:56:18.473-07:002012-08-26T10:56:18.473-07:00I totally get where you're coming from. I bel...I totally get where you're coming from. I believe that the first step to avoiding these patterns is to recognize that you're aware they exist and are conscious of your fear of repetition. I think you're leaps and bounds ahead of most of society in terms of acknowledging what went wrong and what you don't want to repeat for your own children. You're going to be a great mom.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032718306225742021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-66429355031671351342012-08-26T06:28:02.977-07:002012-08-26T06:28:02.977-07:00I will be very honest with you Cristy. There have ...I will be very honest with you Cristy. There have been times in my life that for one split second I have almost stepped over that line of my abusive, beating childhood. I was so angry, but I stopped and took a breath and then realized it was something I was NOT going to do. I know this all makes me sound pretty crappy as a mom. But, my 15 year old daughter is a pretty amazing kid and she knows the struggles I went through as a single mom. <br />I completely understand the fear you have of repeating the past. You may have moments but you will work through them :)Just Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06315564549299993908noreply@blogger.com