tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post228543521659967170..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: Confronting angerCristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-2368708417713028992013-03-24T18:35:13.915-07:002013-03-24T18:35:13.915-07:00I am late to the party, but I am glad to see you b...I am late to the party, but I am glad to see you back blogging again. I agree with SIF, your voice is important & much needed in this community. And sometimes it just feels good to vent. <br /><br />Glad the Sugar Beats are hanging in there too. :) loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-17896152340159343442013-03-14T23:41:09.937-07:002013-03-14T23:41:09.937-07:00I think it is only natural for those still in the ...I think it is only natural for those still in the trenches (at the height of that bitterness that eventually hits us all in dealing with infertility) to hit a point where they have to disconnect themselves from bloggers who get the happy ending. We have all been there, and done that, and it makes sense to me. What DOESN'T make sense to me, is using that bitterness as an excuse to lash out at and try to hurt those who have been there, simply because they have achieved the goal you too are fighting for.<br /><br />The conclusion I have come to, is that there are nasty and pathetic people in every walk of life - including within this community. But do not ever let any of them ever make you feel as though you are not relevant. You are. You matter. You have fought and cried and ached and tried. You have failed and failed and failed, only now to finally succeed. That success does not wipe out the battle you had to wage in getting here.<br /><br />You are relevant. You matter. And your voice is so very needed within this community. S.I.F.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15037271343194689612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-48626543988026298172013-03-14T04:07:27.834-07:002013-03-14T04:07:27.834-07:00You are still relevant, very much so. I'm so s...You are still relevant, very much so. I'm so sorry for all the struggles going on around you at the moment, that is a lot to deal with at once. You need to take care of yourself, Grey and the babies as best as you can. To be pregnant after IF and loss must be such a challenge emotionally. I hope you can feel the support and love from so many of us still. And write when you feel like it, there's no pressure of regular updates either, just saying. marwilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14490542805154143307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-83018299789413847742013-03-13T08:10:18.180-07:002013-03-13T08:10:18.180-07:00Glad to have you back! I'm sorry that this mo...Glad to have you back! I'm sorry that this month has been so hard- have you thought about finding another OB/GYN?<br /><br />Yes you are pregnant, but you are still very relevant. Please know that there are a large number of us that look forward to your posts, whatever you have to say. I'm in the mindset that if an IF blogger gets pregnant, that's a win for the whole community because that gives me hope that I too will have that outcome some day.<br /><br />Sorry to hear about the sequester...it's going to affect a whole lot of people and almost everyone in the country is ignoring it. Ridonkulous.Non Sequitur Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268138421234170972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-54214610087854861542013-03-12T22:34:43.349-07:002013-03-12T22:34:43.349-07:00Glad to have you back too! I want to keep hearing...Glad to have you back too! I want to keep hearing from you. Despite what "they" say, you are still relevant. I am sorry it has been such a season of crap (mixed with the blessings). I really, really hope things turn a corner and you can enter into the rest of your pregnancy with excitement!Sara-Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02106264089310972938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-62264728747751899502013-03-12T12:06:47.072-07:002013-03-12T12:06:47.072-07:00I can't figure out most folks. Do they have n...I can't figure out most folks. Do they have nothing better to do than to tear into a person that is having a good day finally in a string of years of bad days? Makes me angry, blood boil, fume if you will to know that someone is causing trouble just because they are unhappy with their own life. A twin pregnancy by itself is difficult but you are facing more than a normal pregnancy and should be given special treatment.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-79636891027537952382013-03-12T12:04:48.968-07:002013-03-12T12:04:48.968-07:00LOL to the Baby dancing and Aunt Flo. When I firs...LOL to the Baby dancing and Aunt Flo. When I first started trying to create my family I was not getting these abbreviations of BD and AF...now it has become burned into my brain as the polite way to say I'm getting sex and have my period. Sheesh what we do to fit in.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-35959067526861686512013-03-12T10:43:51.743-07:002013-03-12T10:43:51.743-07:00I'm so sorry to hear that there's been suc...I'm so sorry to hear that there's been such crap thrown at you lately - virtually and in real life. I hate that these negative commenters would take up so much of everyone's mental energy and take away from what is otherwise such a supportive and lovely community. I'm wishing you guys such good things and hope that everything starts to settle down for you on the home, car, job, blog front. So much to be dealing with at once... and all during a twin pregnancy which I can say from experience is no joke! take care of yourself.alloallohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00715244809039724227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-49160619510934397302013-03-12T09:38:55.814-07:002013-03-12T09:38:55.814-07:00Oh, I'm so happy you're sticking around! L...Oh, I'm so happy you're sticking around! Less happy to hear about all this horrible crap you've been dealing with, but hope things start turning around for you and Grey in the near future. It's kind of crazy for me to hear about all the negativity that's swirling around -- I believe it's there (because it's there in EVERY online community), but I haven't encountered it so far. There are SO MANY amazing women in the ALI world I'm more often than not blown away by the support that comes my way from women who don't even know me. Anyway, there will always be trolls and crazy people, but I vote for just deleting that crap and moving on. :)YeahScience!http://www.yeahscienceblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-78212824623650443712013-03-12T06:44:15.086-07:002013-03-12T06:44:15.086-07:00Welcome back. It makes me sad to hear that you an...Welcome back. It makes me sad to hear that you and other devoted members of the IF community are being made to feel this way. Pregnancy is supposed to be the goal that we are all trying (or were trying) to reach. Once we get there, that should be celebrated and looked to for inspiration, not pushed aside and made to feel irrelevant. I imagine many people would say that since I have two healthy children and have "only" suffered one (early) loss, I'm not truly infertile, or not "infertile-enough" to consider myself a part of this world, but I disagree. I fought infertility for 19 months with my second. You have struggled for a long time and been through so much, you shouldn't be made to feel this way.<br /><br />I hope you stay. And I hope that people can either be supportive or be quiet.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17199324961244085710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-49856024033624647742013-03-12T06:32:30.425-07:002013-03-12T06:32:30.425-07:00It sounds like you are doing exactly what you are ...It sounds like you are doing exactly what you are suppose to, putting your health and babies #1. I love this post though, as I always love your honesty and inspiration. I know that you have gotten me through some pretty dark days with your kind words.Just Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06315564549299993908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-55653446646794968452013-03-12T05:59:56.120-07:002013-03-12T05:59:56.120-07:00Amen! And I for one could never stand the 'bab...Amen! And I for one could never stand the 'babydustrainbowbaby' crap. ;) I'm a grown woman, I have sex not baby dancing, and I've never had an 'Aunt Flo'. <br /><br />Getting pregnant is hard. Being pregnant after being infertile is even harder. And being a parent is harder still. What a lot of people in the ALI community don't understand YET is that trying to get pregnant is just the beginning. It isn't right that people in this community keep turning on their own. I wish that Mo hadn't closed her doors, I hope that no one gives you a load of flak. You are relevant :)Chickenpighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09442755180328605920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-50410376995322069112013-03-12T01:39:27.363-07:002013-03-12T01:39:27.363-07:00I'm still fairly new to this community (well, ...I'm still fairly new to this community (well, to the blogging aspect of it anyway), so although I don't know what went down, I think you have every reason to focus on you and those sweet babes of yours now if you need to. I for one will be following whenever you feel ready to update us. Wishing you peace and thinking of you.Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-31490664862260176602013-03-11T23:55:55.844-07:002013-03-11T23:55:55.844-07:00I was just about to send you an email and see how ...I was just about to send you an email and see how things have been. You've had quite the month! I hope that you are able to let go of some of your anger, because sometimes, even when others are in the wrong, it's just too much energy to spend. You need to take care of yourself and your family first. <br /><br />I'll keep my fingers crossed that one of your funding applications is granted soon. That must be so stressful!<br /><br />Hang in there. (And, yes, you ARE still relevant.)sass @ (In)fertility Unexplainedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06322070279032931788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-84361193605518445722013-03-11T22:09:25.179-07:002013-03-11T22:09:25.179-07:00I'm glad you are back!I'm glad you are back!JJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06400852355259918507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-52955056710771363492013-03-11T19:26:59.475-07:002013-03-11T19:26:59.475-07:00I just wanted to say - TWINS?! OMG! THAT IS AWESOM...I just wanted to say - TWINS?! OMG! THAT IS AWESOME! AS for the rest of the post - you can only do what's right for YOU and your babies! The infertility blogging world LOVES you (at least I know I do and I can only speak for myself...) but I wish you love and peace within yourself and for your babies as well!Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07636258806265231840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-88262894500487426862013-03-11T18:18:40.099-07:002013-03-11T18:18:40.099-07:00"...but I also will no longer make apologies ..."...but I also will no longer make apologies to people who actively abuse and bully me or anyone I love."<br /><br />Hear, hear! <br /><br />It's good to see you back. Don't let any of the bastards get you down. Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14101535107377688458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-56440459693295237082013-03-11T17:46:57.852-07:002013-03-11T17:46:57.852-07:00A very powerful post. Just sending a hug while yo...A very powerful post. Just sending a hug while you breathe in and out.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-82490806595555876252013-03-11T17:14:29.833-07:002013-03-11T17:14:29.833-07:00Amen sister. You are such an inspiration and I kno...Amen sister. You are such an inspiration and I know those little ones will have such an amazing household to be brought up into. I was so happy to see you and Grey the other day - even for a short while. It's so wonderful to have someone to talk to in person who truly gets it all. You are a great friend and deserve to be at peace with this pregnancy and in this community. Please don't let the few negative trolls and bloggers mess with all you have accomplished and continue to work for.ADSchillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13972164121690415796noreply@blogger.com