tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post4268471081633124396..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: Quantifying loveCristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-235278102303216942016-08-15T07:41:35.775-07:002016-08-15T07:41:35.775-07:00Oh, I'm so very sorry for the loss of Professo...Oh, I'm so very sorry for the loss of Professor Tigger. He sounds so special. I feel like people definitely quantify love, and loss, and it's so counterproductive. I had the awful experience of having to put my beloved three-legged cat down while in the two week wait from a frozen, post-ectopic. I was destroyed by the inexplicable loss of my cat (and a horrific euthanasia gone wrong), but also destroyed by the negative result of my cycle. I knew my cat and had a physical entity to grieve, but I also grieved all the possibilities that were lost with my embryos that didn't make it. THe human heart is capable of all kinds of love and grieving. To say one is better than the other instead of just different? Why? I'm sorry for your loss, which deserves to be treated like the gaping hole it is. (Maybe those comments like "he had a good run" come from people who don't know what to say with death? Sort of the "She's in a better place" people?)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-50673588234009835812016-08-11T10:48:37.371-07:002016-08-11T10:48:37.371-07:00I wonder if perhaps there are two different types ...I wonder if perhaps there are two different types of people who just can't "get" each other on this issue. I adore my dog and cat - and would absolutely put myself in harm's way to protect them - but if you ask me if I love my child more than my pets my answer is unequivocally yes (it's not just a different kind of love; it is absolutely a ranking). Likewise, I had three early pregnancy losses. They devastated me. However, hands down I know if I lost my one year old now my grief would far surpass my grief at losing those pregnancies. It is easy for me to "rank" that and it's hard for me to understand people who don't feel the same. Though, to be clear, I don't - or at least I try not to - belittle the pain of others just because I can imagine something I would classify as "more" painful. <br /><br />All of that said, I'm sorry about Tigger's passing and wish you comfort and peace in the days ahead.<br />-PollyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-41817071294163127602016-08-11T08:12:45.103-07:002016-08-11T08:12:45.103-07:00I'm so sorry for your loss. It's terribly...I'm so sorry for your loss. It's terribly hard when loved ones pass away. What a heartfelt and beautiful post as well on the futility of "ranking" pain. <br /><br />Sending thoughts and a hug. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-89280107438161638232016-08-11T05:03:59.488-07:002016-08-11T05:03:59.488-07:00Tigger was absolutely gorgeous! He looks like he ...Tigger was absolutely gorgeous! He looks like he lived a long and spoiled life. I'm really sorry he's gone, both for you and for your friends. <br /><br />I don't know why love for pets is often placed so low on the hierarchy of importance of love. I also don't get why there is such a knee jerk reaction to judge and/or compare. And there's no right or wrong way to grieve or feel the intensity of a loss. I can already tell you that I will be a mess when my dog passes, and I hope we have 5+ years left with him.BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-11053867176812718342016-08-10T16:35:19.119-07:002016-08-10T16:35:19.119-07:00This made me cry. The loss of an animal always do...This made me cry. The loss of an animal always does. So sorry for the loss of Tigger.Aramishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12275274008426941898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-20217320684811074642016-08-10T10:06:29.734-07:002016-08-10T10:06:29.734-07:00Cristy, I'm in tears for your losses. Your elo...Cristy, I'm in tears for your losses. Your eloquent words touched places in my heart where I feel the loss of loved ones.<br /><br />Big, big hugs to you, my friend. Heals me as much as, I hope, it soothes you.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.com