tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post6731291062361200202..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: Grey skies, clear goalsCristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-21017902384624683562012-11-17T08:06:55.660-08:002012-11-17T08:06:55.660-08:00Your words seem to echo my own husband's. He ...Your words seem to echo my own husband's. He is happy when I am happy. So often we are both sad, feeling partially empty. Kid-sized holes in our heart - exactly.<br /><br />Hang in there - having faith that this is going to work for you guys once and for all!Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032718306225742021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-24499813584786556042012-11-16T22:19:29.312-08:002012-11-16T22:19:29.312-08:00Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this upcomi...Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this upcoming FET in light of all you've already been through. We are all here for you two, hoping for a happy and healthy baby at the end of this long, hard road.Darylhttp://soonafamily.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-82962509362544266682012-11-15T17:56:45.987-08:002012-11-15T17:56:45.987-08:00Hello! I've just started reading Christy's...Hello! I've just started reading Christy's blog recently and also live in the Seattle area! I just wanted to write and encourage you both to not give up. I know how tough this journey is, trust me. I've had three miscarriages, 5 failed cycles with clomid/femara, 3 failed IUIs, and 1 failed IVF cycle. I'm now finally pregnant with our 2nd IVF cycle, albeit it's still early (almost 11 weeks). <br /><br />Needless to say, it was NOT easy on our marriage. My husband actually wanted to give up after our first failed IVF cycle. According to him, "Don't you see it's not going to happen for us?!" That was very painful to hear. However, I wasn't ready to give up hope. My husband is very sensitive, so it was hard for him to say yes to all the heartaches that come with another cycle. I am so grateful he did though, otherwise, we wouldn't have our little firecracker. Of course at any point it could go south, but for now, I am just happy to have him or her with us. <br /><br />Christy is lucky to have you. You are lucky to have her. No matter what happens, you will still have each other. Don't let infertility rob you of that. Someway, somehow you will have your little family someday. :-) Sending good thoughts your way and hoping this is the cycle! <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-17756078650257449712012-11-15T17:03:06.993-08:002012-11-15T17:03:06.993-08:00Wishing you all the very very best of luck. Maybe...Wishing you all the very very best of luck. Maybe, the new diagnosis and the new treatment for APA's will make all the difference. It was only after my clotting disorder diagnosis and the additional meds that we had success.... I am holding everything crossed for you!BWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02678105236745432509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-51928288086889641132012-11-15T13:24:09.876-08:002012-11-15T13:24:09.876-08:00One of the nurses at my RE's clinic confessed ...One of the nurses at my RE's clinic confessed to me during my last D&C that they often forget about the husbands in all of this. Which, I understand in some respects because they develop a connection to us women on a more intimate and constant level. But the husbands/partners should never be forgotten. It just propagates the (incorrect) idea that pregnancy is all about us women. <br /><br />What comes through loud and clear in this post are your words of togetherness. How your desires and vulnerabilities are meshed with Cristy's. It's not all about you or all about her, rather it's about doing this together. There is nothing stronger than that. Nothing. I take such insight from you and your perspective on this journey, Grey. I'm so glad that you confident enough, brave enough, and open enough to post along side your wife. Thank you. Tamihttp://submerged.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-7979568449916135632012-11-15T10:46:26.353-08:002012-11-15T10:46:26.353-08:00Wishing you both the best of luck.Wishing you both the best of luck.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-53681490095361835532012-11-15T08:39:26.479-08:002012-11-15T08:39:26.479-08:00I love the partner perspective. My DH seemed blas...I love the partner perspective. My DH seemed blase about the whole process until we had our first miscarriage...and then I witnessed him crumble. He was in such a tough spot. I was physically having to deal with it, I was an emotional wreck and his Man-gene told him he had to be the supportive strong one....but seriously...he lost just as much as I did that day. It is so sad how the poor father get's minimized in this whole process. Thank you so much for your perspective. You are an awesome hubby to be so supportive and open with Cristy and I really think you will be a great dad. I will be rooting you along in this cycle. Have faith. <br />Kdkdactylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02123983421783902463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-68797054371863554932012-11-15T08:14:13.952-08:002012-11-15T08:14:13.952-08:00We are all here rooting you guys on 100%!We are all here rooting you guys on 100%!Just Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06315564549299993908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-46013746709960457112012-11-15T07:50:43.281-08:002012-11-15T07:50:43.281-08:00Wow! What a beautiful post! I so wish my husband c...Wow! What a beautiful post! I so wish my husband could express himself so openly on this journey. Thank you for sharing and giving a perspective we're not always privy to. I hope and pray this is the cycle for you both. But all you can do is to keep on keepin' on....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-88354780921621577412012-11-15T07:18:00.027-08:002012-11-15T07:18:00.027-08:00Hi Grey! You're very right -- all you can do i...Hi Grey! You're very right -- all you can do in this situation is just keep pushing through, dune after dune, and trying not to let all the sand and grit pull you down. Personally, I have high hopes for 2013. Frankly, 2012 can suck it. And I know a lot of people in this community are gearing up for IVF or FETs come January, so who knows, maybe we'll all be part of some crazy new year pregnancy wave. :) Hope you keep blogging and saying hello as you guys both go through this process... it's not easy.YeahScience!http://www.yeahscienceblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-42441832373572332072012-11-15T06:58:11.537-08:002012-11-15T06:58:11.537-08:00OMG This post is amazing! I love that ur able to s...OMG This post is amazing! I love that ur able to share ur feelings as a husband here!!! I will be reading this to my hubby he needs to hear that others out there feel like this and its ok 2 share those feelings instead of keeping them all bottled up just because u want to appear strong!!! U guys will make amazing parents and we r all rooting for ur cycle!!!!! All of us!!!!! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05767555152276826392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-6434277401596007442012-11-15T05:14:05.253-08:002012-11-15T05:14:05.253-08:00I admire y'all for being so open with your str...I admire y'all for being so open with your struggles and your journey. Your metaphor for miscarriage is so horrible and true. Hoping that all of this ends with joy. Thanks for sharing your side :)JBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03918024171163030406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-10786447023995004922012-11-15T04:23:56.090-08:002012-11-15T04:23:56.090-08:00Such a beautiful, wonderfully eloquent and deeply ...Such a beautiful, wonderfully eloquent and deeply moving post. You express yourself so clearly and poetically. I love to get a glimpse into the men quietly standing behind my brave, inspiring bloggy friends. Lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02655205298951083138noreply@blogger.com