tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post7370554097211061991..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: #MicroblogMondays: it still hurtsCristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-19128095962913300922016-07-29T11:22:27.596-07:002016-07-29T11:22:27.596-07:00I can definitely relate to this. I bet a lot of us...I can definitely relate to this. I bet a lot of us have moments like this in our memories. <br /><br />Happy early 3rd b day beats! Gypsy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13026496787029080243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-84753235623894027842016-07-26T14:24:33.042-07:002016-07-26T14:24:33.042-07:00Oh, this post resonated with me, hardcore. I have...Oh, this post resonated with me, hardcore. I have things I can't let go of, and I've been made to feel badly over the things that I hold onto. And then I read something like this and it helps me to remember that I get to decide how I feel about something, not someone else.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-11902628341755772952016-07-26T10:52:30.141-07:002016-07-26T10:52:30.141-07:00One thing I'm coming to figure out (slow learn...One thing I'm coming to figure out (slow learner here) is that many times, the only way through is through. I'm not sure why I still try not to feel my feelings.<br /><br />Happy birthday to the sweet Beats :-)Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-14988245211376597802016-07-26T06:40:43.377-07:002016-07-26T06:40:43.377-07:00When you tell your story, you heal others who are ...When you tell your story, you heal others who are going through the same scenario right now. You have no idea how many people you may reach over months or years. So, find comfort in knowing that while you feel you're still grappling with healing yourself, there are probably countless other people who will heal in your telling the story over and over. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00241440303548441344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-31139364545838616862016-07-26T04:21:45.623-07:002016-07-26T04:21:45.623-07:00It's definitely ok to admit that the situation...It's definitely ok to admit that the situation really sucked, and it's ok to talk about it. I'm quickly realizing that healing doesn't mean you'll forget and that forgiving another person for a wrong committed against you doesn't mean that they are absolved from responsibility for hurting you (nor does it mean that you have to maintain any kind of relationship with them).<br /><br />Oh, and happy birthday to the Beats! I hope their day is filled with fun and laughter! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-58412220523917699552016-07-26T03:45:00.970-07:002016-07-26T03:45:00.970-07:00Yes. This is so true. After having my daughter a f...Yes. This is so true. After having my daughter a friend's mom who dealt with infertility 35 years prior said to me, "you never forget what it feels like." She still went back to that place and some of those sad memories 30 plus years and 3 kids later. We can't go back in time and make those moments ok and they do matter.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02574998546122942223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-72527004675401201592016-07-25T17:20:48.387-07:002016-07-25T17:20:48.387-07:00I think it's definitely okay to admit that a p...I think it's definitely okay to admit that a particular event or time was really really painful. I can't imagine how you felt at the children reading/belly stroking moment. Actually, that was a stupid statement. I can imagine it, very well. It was terribly painful, and not a little insensitive of the family. You have the Beats now, and whilst that might mean a future situation like this won't be (as) painful, it doesn't erase the pain you've been through, or miraculously mean that all previous events that hurt no longer hurt. As Jess said, you hold the scars from that. <br /><br />I've said over and over on my blog - my acceptance and happiness now doesn't diminish the pain I've been through. What it does mean though, is that eventually I have been able to remember those situations that really sucked without re-living the pain. I can remember that I was in pain at the time, but I no longer feel it specifically. You'll get there.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-25037385976082911892016-07-25T12:11:46.324-07:002016-07-25T12:11:46.324-07:00I can identify with this. Although our first attem...I can identify with this. Although our first attempts at trying to conceive ended happily with our daughter, I still remember sad and crappy moments. They seem to have a life of their own, in a way. I think it might be because at those moments I felt very trapped by circumstance and it felt like the awfulness might come to define my life. Looking back I know it didn't and yet it did seem at the time like that might be the case.torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-19013362832515894772016-07-25T10:33:25.474-07:002016-07-25T10:33:25.474-07:00I think you're absolutely right. Sometimes the...I think you're absolutely right. Sometimes there's just no way to make the hurt go away completely, like a healed bone that still aches when it rains. Not only is it okay to admit, I believe it's the healthier way to look at the situation, and sharing this may help someone else deal with some lingering pain. *hugs*internetg33khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12672869878789920528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-37375114733566066872016-07-25T10:10:15.563-07:002016-07-25T10:10:15.563-07:00You're right. I can't be as transparent on...You're right. I can't be as transparent on my blog as I want because... said people read it, but there are so many memories like you have. And having Olivia is the best thing that's ever happened to me... and yet those situations really, really sucked.Risahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01134469272401945848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-19048983334673679522016-07-25T08:19:23.232-07:002016-07-25T08:19:23.232-07:00I think this goes along with the idea of learning ...I think this goes along with the idea of learning to cope with the scars that infertility inflicts, but knowing that underneath that scar there is still a wound, and sometimes that wound feels like it's opened up a bit. That scene sounded horrifically difficult to deal with, and even though now you have the Beats and Grey can read stories to them and they are a joy, it doesn't erase that memory and how you felt at the time. It doesn't erase the hurt of having to put on a happy face while life moved on around you and you were dealing with horrible emotional pain and setback after setback. It's absolutely okay to admit that that hurt then, and it still hurts now, looking back on it. Thinking about why and letting it out is helpful, so it can hurt but not fester. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.com