tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post7731095964492070703..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: The male perspective on ALICristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-80027096083728144732013-06-12T07:36:28.013-07:002013-06-12T07:36:28.013-07:00This is such a good topic, one that we as women ca...This is such a good topic, one that we as women can only delve so far into, so I love that your husband posted here a couple of times. What a brave guy!Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15069220262683215373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-18133535964577736572013-06-08T17:56:19.421-07:002013-06-08T17:56:19.421-07:00You may have seen this, http://www.washingtonpost....You may have seen this, http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/for-men-infertility-often-becomes-a-private-heartache/2013/06/05/049e33ca-ba6b-11e2-b94c-b684dda07add_story.html, but it's in this weeks Washington Post magazine, and I thought you might be interested to read it. Not ground breaking, but it certainly raises this very issue in front of a large audience. I'm still ruminating on the article, my only complaint being both couples were pregnant. Overall I thought it accurately reflected how difficult the process can be. I'm lucky and my husband is fairly open about what he's feeling.<br /><br />Also, on an unrelated note, I grew up in Tacoma and went to college in Minnesota (Carleton) so I enjoy your place references greatly. I'm so, so glad all is well with the BeatsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-41179865755861979032013-06-07T01:58:41.922-07:002013-06-07T01:58:41.922-07:00This is an important topic and I'm sure there ...This is an important topic and I'm sure there are many men out there struggling to be heard, or don't feel like they can talk openly about it. We can only hope that they find these kind of blogs/links if they search for it. marwilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14490542805154143307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-35299237389954025002013-06-06T07:12:49.874-07:002013-06-06T07:12:49.874-07:00Aw that's so sweet, your hubby guest posted! ...Aw that's so sweet, your hubby guest posted! :D<br /><br />Oh and I've nominated you for a little award on my blog :)Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17199324961244085710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-63812511210628918812013-06-05T00:25:48.007-07:002013-06-05T00:25:48.007-07:00This is so random, but I actually watched a new sh...This is so random, but I actually watched a new show tonight "Mistresses" (watched it solely because Alyssa Milano was in it) and they approached male factor infertility, which I think may be the first time I have seen that on a primetime show. I'm interested to see how they handle it. <br /><br />Also, the spammers are out in full force. I was getting bombarded in the 200+ range, and finally had to have my web designer install something. Totally crazy!S.I.F.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15037271343194689612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-21770911142167359622013-06-04T21:34:05.757-07:002013-06-04T21:34:05.757-07:00I felt really isolated from my (now-ex)husband too...I felt really isolated from my (now-ex)husband too, but in that case some of it was him trying to be the strong one and some of it was ambivalence between not wanting to hurt me and not wanting to go through the process of IVF. It drove me up a wall, though, that he wouldn't deal with it by talking about it, not even with other guy friends who had been there and done that. But it meant that I felt like I couldn't talk to him about it and that he didn't want to hear it and he was very separate from the process and the decision-making. Christy, you may remember last spring when I was trying to decide whether to wait one month or three to cycle. My ex tried to be supportive by telling me he couldn't make the choice for me and I had to do what was best for me. But that didn't help me make the decision. And I didn't feel like I could talk it out with him. I had to go to my best friend to be able to talk it out and be asked the questions I needed to hear to figure out what I needed.<br /><br />PS. Christy, I replied to you on mineKecharahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05711100496195654068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-84050834829616676232013-06-04T11:00:32.177-07:002013-06-04T11:00:32.177-07:00I often felt isolated from my husband during our I...I often felt isolated from my husband during our IF journey because he just didn't seem to "care" as much - it was hard for me to see that he was just trying to be the strong one. He has since admitted that he really didn't think we'd have any kids, and he just wanted me to be happy either way (even though it made him sad as well to think of not having children). <br /><br />Loved that post by Grey!<br /><br />Do you have anonymous comments disabled on your blog? I had a pretty big following on my old blogger blog, as once i DISabled anon comments, I had no issues with spammers, even without catchpa. <br /><br />Joshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13423295019681051881noreply@blogger.com