tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post82655380866254852..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: The good, the bad and the uglyCristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-49314674991470344872012-07-07T17:49:44.881-07:002012-07-07T17:49:44.881-07:00You are so strong and I am so impressed and happy ...You are so strong and I am so impressed and happy you are pursuing other things that will make you and Grey happier. You are taking care of you and each other and that is the best thing. Wishing you two lots of love, peace and happiness in your new endeavors.Emily @ablanket2keephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10398858102692984237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-7757491090484766752012-07-06T09:49:37.674-07:002012-07-06T09:49:37.674-07:00Change is so hard, especially one that closes a do...Change is so hard, especially one that closes a door before we see another one that's visibly open. If my opinion matters at all, I think you're doing a fantastic thing by taking care of yourself at this time. If that is what you need to feel like you will be a better parent then, I think that's what you should do. You will be a mother someday and when that day arrives, I know you'll want to be 100% present and ready for it. You're doing an incredible job navigating this impossible journey and I'm here with you the whole way holding your hand. So much love to you and Grey.EndoJourneyhttp://www.journeywithendometriosis.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-916648968198805662012-07-05T09:27:07.856-07:002012-07-05T09:27:07.856-07:00I'm so sorry that this new path is causing str...I'm so sorry that this new path is causing stress right now too. If you do end up relocating and want to talk about agencies in MA or working with multiple agency, send me a note (I think you have my email from sock exchange comments). So many people have said in person or on blogs that you can't put life on hold while waiting for adoption, and also that the timing is very unpredicatable.<br />Thinking of you and let me know if there is an info I can provide that would help.<br />--TeresaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-37334437428425658832012-07-05T00:09:44.458-07:002012-07-05T00:09:44.458-07:00Cristy, you've been through so much. I don...Cristy, you've been through so much. I don't think it's a "sin" to pursue other things that make you happy and makes you who you are. You are so much more than an infertile woman. We have to keep telling ourselves that. You've put other things on hold and you deserve to do what makes you happy. I totally support your decision. Lots of hugs to you!Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03117616077321949924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-45024031113354540082012-07-04T20:24:35.289-07:002012-07-04T20:24:35.289-07:00There is no wrong choice. There is no infertility...There is no wrong choice. There is no infertility sin despite how the world tries to make us believe. There is just you and Grey and whatever works for your family is the right decision. There are no rules for this.<br /><br />Major supportive hugs your way.Hapa Hopeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15390505849217183486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-43850327519113103252012-07-04T17:46:29.638-07:002012-07-04T17:46:29.638-07:00Putting yourself and your future first is no sin, ...Putting yourself and your future first is no sin, Cristy! I think you're right to do so and I completely support that decision. You have to find your fulfillment wherever you can. And I know you guys will find your way to parenthood, one way or another. I'm going to be here every step of the way, watching, supporting, listening, and sending so much love.Shelley @ Tales from the Waiting Roomhttp://fromthewaitingroom.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-67803064655486880042012-07-04T12:06:18.671-07:002012-07-04T12:06:18.671-07:00I think I can understand what you are going throug...I think I can understand what you are going through right now. J and I are at that transition point too. We'll likely be moving next year, I've been stationed here 4 years and that's a long time for military. We can proceed with adoption until after we know where we are moving to. We can't do donor eggs until we know if he is going to be able to stay in or not. I don't know how much more abuse my body can take from the hormones.<br /><br />J and I need to re-evaluate our life plan. Children might not be a part of our plan after all is said and done, at least not genetic ones.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-39390090285506728622012-07-04T06:31:22.129-07:002012-07-04T06:31:22.129-07:00Cristy, this road has been so hard for you. It is ...Cristy, this road has been so hard for you. It is difficult to want something so badly, and not be able to control the outcome. It is really great, though, that you are taking care of yourselves - and your careers. It is really great that you are starting the adoption process, even though the timing may be frustrating. It is really great that you and Grey are in this together. I am continually impressed by your insight and your strength. You can do this. This road won't last forever, and it's okay to stop and take care of yourselves for a while.sass @ (In)fertility Unexplainedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06322070279032931788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-31747577217857852092012-07-04T06:12:30.601-07:002012-07-04T06:12:30.601-07:00I 100% support you pursuing things other than adop...I 100% support you pursuing things other than adoption right now. Your professional happiness is just as important as anything else right now and you have the opportunity to do this. No guilt. None. Take this time to build your life and you'll still have time for everything else. You are SO strong and I am sending you big, supportive hugs.Her Royal Fabulousnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04008723588326617669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-48142565680454097282012-07-03T21:57:53.121-07:002012-07-03T21:57:53.121-07:001000% agreed.1000% agreed.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032718306225742021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-56104066919479029962012-07-03T21:56:51.335-07:002012-07-03T21:56:51.335-07:00Wow, this is so tough Cristy. I feel your pain so...Wow, this is so tough Cristy. I feel your pain so so so strongly. Wait times in my province are up to 3 years, with no guarantees. I feel like I've been putting everything on hold for 8 long years with the hope that next month will be "the one". When does it end? <br /><br />I guess the answer is it ends when I choose it to end. But the grief is so strong. So painful. You are the bravest woman in the world for putting your hand out and forcing the madness, the torture, the endless wait to end. <br /><br />For now. It's all temporary. All of it. You and Grey will be a mom and dad. And soon too. I look back at the last 12 months, 16 months, 36 months of my life and seriously marvel at how quickly the time has passed. Which makes me sad... I've spent so much time waiting for time to pass, waiting for the time when I have a baby. And all this potential me-time, happy time, free time has slipped away.<br /><br />You and Grey are doing the right thing. Whatever path or timeline you choose. The switch is a massive one, a sad one, a scary one. I totally get it. Take your time, settle on your direction, breathe. You will come back ferocious and renewed and so absolutely ready for whatever the next step is.<br /><br />We're right here with you.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032718306225742021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-15629236458264960092012-07-03T19:17:50.481-07:002012-07-03T19:17:50.481-07:00I wish I knew what to say or wish there was someth...I wish I knew what to say or wish there was something more I could do! I think that doing something for yourself is a very good idea while you work on the best plan for the future. I wish you all the best and I will be here cheering you on with whatever you decide is best for you both!!Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17635695705004799302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-16088801251352324632012-07-03T18:10:02.807-07:002012-07-03T18:10:02.807-07:00Oh hon, this is all just a shitstorm sometimes. I ...Oh hon, this is all just a shitstorm sometimes. I wish there was something I could do to help. <br />I was wondering about how moving could influence your adoption process but hadn't had the chance to ask. I can't say I am surprised, but I am sad for you. <br />I know you will do what is right for you and I pray that some peace will come to you along the way.ADSchillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13972164121690415796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-71026302053026113832012-07-03T15:12:11.505-07:002012-07-03T15:12:11.505-07:00It sounds like this road is indeed getting more co...It sounds like this road is indeed getting more complicated with lots of unforeseen obstacles. It's even harder when there's no one you can relate too because they either have children or have never been through infertility. I definitely have friends who seem to have been "cleansed" from infertility once they have children, it makes it really hard to connect with them! I pray that you guys will stay strong through this new journey!Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11703481094197544196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-89972983633185744472012-07-03T13:25:12.477-07:002012-07-03T13:25:12.477-07:00I am really excited to follow you on this new jour...I am really excited to follow you on this new journey!Just Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06315564549299993908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-13696819892648178612012-07-03T13:23:33.328-07:002012-07-03T13:23:33.328-07:00You are so strong and an inspiration to us all. I...You are so strong and an inspiration to us all. I hate that this is so difficult! I wish everyone could understand the strength and depth of so many decisions that you are making right now. My thoughts are with you.Sara-Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02106264089310972938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-14411853516112813792012-07-03T13:08:25.004-07:002012-07-03T13:08:25.004-07:00I don't think you will ever look back on this ...I don't think you will ever look back on this and laugh, though I do think you will look back and see that it was all worth while.Tuttihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05892495385717172227noreply@blogger.com