tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post8718522977229608268..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: The normalizingCristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-82289772970044714502018-07-02T19:10:48.748-07:002018-07-02T19:10:48.748-07:00I'm glad that She-Beat is doing so well and lo...I'm glad that She-Beat is doing so well and loving ballet! And He-Beat...it is really tough to be the sibling of someone who requires so much extra attention, even as you know there's a reason for it (I have some experience with this myself). But the soccer camp thing sounds pretty typical from my friends who have littles who go to such things -- they have to adjust, they love it one moment and hate it the next, and they have to learn all the things, and it's not always the most pleasant, but going back to try again seems to be the thing that helps (and if it doesn't after a couple more tries, well then maybe soccer isn't his thing). Otherwise it's uncomfortable and they don't want to go and if they never go back, it's definitely soured. I am not really the best one to give parenting advice, but this comes from my friends who have had similar experiences with their young kids and organized activities. I wish you luck, and hope that it gets easier -- it's hard NOT to be hard on yourself, but I think you're being hard on yourself. Sending you love! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-37633318874758635512018-06-27T22:50:18.171-07:002018-06-27T22:50:18.171-07:00He-beat sounds like he is right where not quite 5 ...He-beat sounds like he is right where not quite 5 year olds should be. My almost 6 year old still has challenges with the same issues. <br />Being a mom is rough. You're doing great!JustHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05373768249873098150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-69478190864568142842018-06-26T18:14:00.568-07:002018-06-26T18:14:00.568-07:00I think the whole team sports thing and sharing an...I think the whole team sports thing and sharing and taking turns is something that just comes with time. 4 years olds are so finicky...one day he maybe so really well with it and another day he might not. Some kids aren’t ready for that kind of thing until later...I know my own 4 year old is definitely not at a stage where I could put him in to a team sport and expect it to go well. That’s just him. So we do other things like swimming lessons, where taking turns is more obvious and concrete...the instructor can only get one kid off the wall at a time, and if he tries when it’s not his turn he will 1) sink and 2) get in trouble for breaking the rules. Soccer is tricky because there is running and kicking and I can see how a 4 year old would find it a free for all like just get the ball and not understand position boundaries. My nephew used to get bored and sit down on his end of the field and pick daisies, he had no interest in waiting. Don’t feel bad if it doesn’t seem like his thing...you will find something that is. Also keep in mind that although the same age, boys just tend to be less mature than girls, so while She-beat can thrive, He-beat might not, and that’s ok!! Maybe there is something you can find that requires less of turn-taking and waiting and more of getting to run around in the action with everyone. Charlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987444437659867827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-22264254004117360462018-06-26T17:49:27.635-07:002018-06-26T17:49:27.635-07:00I think this actually is normal for this age. Try ...I think this actually is normal for this age. Try to give yourself a break. Talk to him - you are a good parent. Kids are unpredictable and team sports are tough. Tomorrow will be a better day.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02574998546122942223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-76878542981508642052018-06-26T16:22:20.752-07:002018-06-26T16:22:20.752-07:00Oh, my. Even normal things can be tough to navigat...Oh, my. Even normal things can be tough to navigate. Hopefully you'll find that the coaches are understanding of different places 5 year olds may be with respect to sharing the ball, taking turns, and teamwork. After all, they are there to TEACH all these things, right? So this means how do you help him through whatever switched him off on Day 2, and how might you help him switch himself back on?<br /><br />I'm thinking of you as you figure this out. I wish I had a more concrete answer.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.com