tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post8889765731949752816..comments2023-04-04T07:26:09.997-07:00Comments on Searching for our silver lining: Letting it all outCristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-11524480012450841042015-12-30T13:32:26.496-08:002015-12-30T13:32:26.496-08:00Good heavens, and I thought WE had some crappy nei...Good heavens, and I thought WE had some crappy neighbours...!! :p I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of either. There are some weird people out there, and while compassion generally is a good thing, you also have to take care of yourself & your family. But yes, it IS traumatic. I still have nightmares stemming from long-ago traumatic encounters with difficult people from my past. :p It wasnt' fun at the time, and it's not fun to relive it in your head either. (((hugs))) loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-53404885379327630412015-12-20T09:54:16.895-08:002015-12-20T09:54:16.895-08:00Oh wow, I can't imagine living flanked by so m...Oh wow, I can't imagine living flanked by so much difficulty. You had to do the best you could to coexist, and it sucks that it keeps you living in fear. I am so glad that you are not surrounded by dysfunction, and that those people have moved on and can no longer blame you (erroneously) for their issues. I hope that you are surrounded by goodness from this point on and that eventually those other peoples' presences can cease haunting you. I hope putting it all out there helped you process and come to peace/grips with what was a horribly stressful situation. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-15587028500816215862015-12-19T11:03:03.141-08:002015-12-19T11:03:03.141-08:00Wow Cristy, I'm so sorry that you've had t...Wow Cristy, I'm so sorry that you've had to endure this. Take care of yourself and of your family - this is a lot to hold on to and process. Hugs.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14896931627340645963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-9645718180737092182015-12-16T20:18:22.598-08:002015-12-16T20:18:22.598-08:00You have nothing to be ashamed of, having only don...You have nothing to be ashamed of, having only done the best you could, in your kind, open and honest way. Fear is always hard to deal with. Even if we know the likelihood of our fears coming true, it isn't always easy to overcome them. I don't know how to help, I wish I did. All I can do is send love and hugs, and they're winging their way to you around the world. Maybe give yourself a virtual hug too?Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-24993353371606683742015-12-16T16:20:39.093-08:002015-12-16T16:20:39.093-08:00Wow, no pity here. You sound like a very compassio...Wow, no pity here. You sound like a very compassionate person to have tried to help with the sex offender guy. Although you feel shame, I don't see there is anything to be ashamed of.<br />I was also talking about this earlier with someone irl (about earthquakes) that anxiety manifests when we are responsible for little ones, and I think is all part of that mamabear protector role.<br />That said, having both of those neighbours sounds massively stressful. I recall one of my friends having similar issues with one of their neighbours (very close in proximity) who was mentally ill and was being very antisocial in what they were doing given the layout of where my friend had to live. I think there's a sense of trying to keep the peace and actually putting up with more than you would like, smoothing things over and not fueling their dramas, because 'they know where you live' and if your home, the place you come back to relax after work, the place you sleep and where your children run round with their nappies off etc is somewhere that what you have already written about, there's a real juxtaposition between keeping your family safe and yet keeping the peace. <br />I dunno. I'm going round in circles, but your post follows a rational logicAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-46689925960675949972015-12-16T05:34:20.316-08:002015-12-16T05:34:20.316-08:00This was clearly a hard post to write (and even ha...This was clearly a hard post to write (and even harder to live it), but I hope that typing it out has released it a bit from your heart. At least enough to make room for deep breaths. Sending a hug.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-51505682172816829692015-12-15T18:04:26.386-08:002015-12-15T18:04:26.386-08:00Your description of yourself and the He-Beat at 5 ...Your description of yourself and the He-Beat at 5 am reminded me of feelings I've had occasionally since our house was broken into almost 2 years ago. (More so when I was at home alone with A J). But that break in was by strangers and presumably an isolated incident. I can only imagine what it's like to feel threatened by your neighbours, physically and emotionally. I'm glad they are gone but can see how the feelings linger. Sadly in the case of folks like your former neighbours it really doesn't matter how nice a person you are; you can't fix them that way and neither can anyone else. torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4129722175911979282.post-57754349133544707122015-12-15T14:52:08.764-08:002015-12-15T14:52:08.764-08:00This sounds like trauma. Your body and psyche are ...This sounds like trauma. Your body and psyche are trying to protect you from harm -- an appropriate and sound response. I am so sorry that you've been carrying this around. It's understandable that you might be triggered by what's going on in the world today. Hugs.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.com